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Boys are more naughty and need more pampered by parents. They take more time to learn and adjust. Boys start speaking very late. These are the common statements we heard from my Relatives, neighbours and even his Doctor. Me and my husband also got carried away with the same opinion and didn't pay much attention to my child's speech delay and unnatural behaviour. By the time we identified there is a problem it was late and the question is did we miss the Early intervention period for Autism Spectrum Disorder. I'm Durga, love to be called as an Autism Mom which makes me stronger all the time as I'm left with no other option. My son is diagnosed with Autism spectrum disorder (ASD) at the age of 4.  Autism , or  autism  spectrum disorder (ASD), refers to a broad range of conditions characterized by challenges with social skills, repetitive behaviors, speech and nonverbal communication. According to the Centers for Disease Control,  autism  affects an est...

When we find a lead role in a movie with all leading qualities and without whom the Movie cannot sustain we give the Hero title to the actor so why not the title to given to a Mom who makes everything perfect for her child at right time. Well i feel Hero is a person who makes it a better place to live for people so for a child always the Hero will be his Mom until he gets fascinated by the fictious stories. An Autism Mom a Superhero It becomes quite obvious to understand the day to day needs of your child after all you be physically and emotionally attached with your child to know his needs and wants everytime but it's not easy to find the needs of an Autistic child as it is unpredictable and based upon the moods of the child. And I was not knowing how to act according to my child's mood swings. He was very hyperactive at times and all of a sudden becomes moody. When he is in a bad mood I don't know what disturbs him so bad within himself that he starts crying...

The Moment you get to know that your kid is diagnosed with Autism spectrum disorder you will be shattered and lose all hopes from life but it's the moment to regain strength and be a super power, as your child needs you the most with Unconditional Love. No one wishes to have their child to be Autistic but if it is what decided for you then accept the challenge and make it a better life for you and your child.  You are your savior You find lonely roads far and far forever and Everyone one starts isolating you. Because you are out to fulfill the desires of your child which is endless and forget everything and everyone else. I often wonder why everyone dislikes me at times but I realise that I am tired and tired always tired so I lost connect with people around me so how can I admire my child. To be an autism mom may mean like often feeling overwhelmed with sadness that your child is burdened with a lot of struggles. But I woke up one day and thought that I have to be happ...

One day when you woke up and you find nothing about yourself for the day. Yes everyone needs you and keeps high expectations on you to serve better every time. But atleast you should not forget yourself when everyone else does. Your Happiness matters a lot and it is not coming in its way. So get the Happiness to your life by hook or crook. You have all the rights on your own life and you choose your life to be happy and successful. Your Life purpose Many of us will forget at one point of time when you have lost control over it that your Life has a purpose and you need to discover it. We are all sent to this World not for just spending quality time but to add some meaning to our Life. What Gives Your Life Meaning. ...  Your life has its ups and downs, times of clarity and confusion. Yet it has a Rich meaning, that you need to unfold by living your purpose. Now you can't ask the purpose to live your own life to someone. Ask yourself not verbally, ...

I was observing him today when he was writing something in the book, suddenly a thought hit my mind that My six year old little one is no longer a little one. He is growing daily and day by day I can see changes in him. But question arises day by day am I feeding him well? Feed Mind and body equally We give our baby vitamin rich and nutritious food. Good food always keeps your baby healthy but what else he needs to keep his mind healthy. It's time to think that not only feeding stomach is important but your mind should be equally healthy to deal with the worst in the world. Healthy Mind make right choices When it comes to our brain we learnt from ages that eating Almonds, walnuts, Broccoli and avacado can boost your brain. I am definitely not a nutritionist but the best diet can make his brain sharp but how to make his mind and soul healthy and peaceful. His thought process should be focused and diffused . This happens by feeding your baby's m...

Am I over excited?? I did not know how to deal with my bundle of joy. I did not want to keep him down at all. Always holding him close to my heart but I didn't know that I need to listen to him and talk to him a lot. I became Mother at very young age and didn't know the challenges of Parenting.  It was very late that I realised that my son wanted me to listen to him and no one was there in our busy life to listen to him at his very young age. Doctors told that he is a boy and will take time to develop speech. She asked me at what age did my baby utter Baba and when did he say his first word. I did not know exactly when it was. I was in complete regret that I did not observe him properly. I was having a maternity leave of 3 months and I was working in an odd shift job. My baby wants me to listen to him. He will utter words only when his dear ones especially his mother is around him.  If you are not there to listen to him then he stops speaking as he will...

Each of us would have dreamt of little things in our childhood like Barbie doll, a Spiderman doll or a Remote car. Many of us wouldn't have experienced a rich lifestyle in childhood where all our wishes were fulfilled. But now if we think of those wishes of ours we feel silly. I am definitely not getting into our childhood dreams where as I am talking about our dreams which we did fullfill and we feel proud about it. Traveling alone was my dream and also by flight. I thought in this busy life in which I hardly get time to watch TV so flying to some place is next to impossible for me. But just I was wondering how great it would be If I can fly alone. Technically not alone as there will be many fellow travelers in flight but all alone with out any dependency. But all of a sudden this happens to me. One fine day I just saw some flight offers in Paytm and I felt like traveling to Mumbai to meet my sister. Now this might not be big thing for every one but was a dream awaiting to fulfill...

A smile is a curve which makes everything straight. Sometimes  your  joy is the source of  your smile , but sometimes  your smile  can be the source of  your  joy.  Your smile  will give you a positive countenance that will make people feel comfortable around you. Because of  your smile , you make life more  beautiful . Now these all are the reasons to keep smiling and to spread joy. But the hardest thing is to smile when you are in distress.  Why smiling  Makes Us Feel Good A smile also make your body and mind relax. Studies have shown that  smiling  releases endorphins, natural painkillers, and serotonin. Together these three neurotransmitters make us feel good from head to toe. These natural chemicals elevate your mood, but they also relax your body and reduce physical pain. Our smile can be our stressbuster When you're in a bad mood,  smile  – even if you don't feel like it – because it ...

Autism is a disorder which does not allow the person's brain to work in a normal way. Point to be noted that the brain works but in a different way. Autism spectrum disorder is not a disability it is a different ability. The kids diagnosed with ASD can do wonders if taken good care of their diet and norture well.  My son is also diagnosed with ASD so I thought that now let's take this as a challenge and give him the best diet which can help. We all would have learnt about the gluten free and Casein free diet is recommended for kids but However it works well outside India but here it is very difficult to completely put them in Gluten free diet as this may miss their nutrition intake. Let's see simple ways to avoid most of the Gluten in our daily life.  Avoid Wheat Gluten is the protein mostly found in wheat so we avoid giving wheat included food like Chapatis and puris instead make a habit of South Indian food like Dosa, Idli. It's difficult for a North Indian family b...

We often listen from people 'Don't be emotional' but I believe that our emotions are always true and try to guide us in the right path. We get this feeling of emotion only after we attain a certain age.  For example our kids love their Mom dad very much and always wanted to be with us but we can't expect our 6 year old kid to empathize our situations because it's hard for him to understand as he is not matured enough to understand good and bad. But as time flies he learns good and bad in this world at the same time he also starts getting emotionally attached with us more or some one he loves this shows that he is grown up. This emotional attachment is a great support system which guides us where to go and whom to approach when we are stuck in a problem.  There is an age where our bonding with our parents slightly moves down and we get into friends zone. We find a very good emotional bonding with our friends as well. If we listen carefully we never get wr...

My tears say the words which my mouth can't express. Whatever age we are in our tears are always with us as our support system. As a kid .. Did you ever notice that kid's tears are easy to wipe off. It stops as soon as you give them whatever they wants. But at the same time finding out what they want is very difficult. It is sometimes easy to give them what they wants because their wishes are little and most of the times a small baby cries out of hunger and usually stops crying when we give milk to Baby. On the other hand if baby cries out of pain or sleeplessness it's hard to calm them. And it is not the same with kids with special needs. When we were a child our satisfaction level was much better than now.  Adult tears .. Now lets come to teenage or an adult age The most colourful age of a Human life at the same time it's quite difficult to control emotions when it comes to grief or joy and we end up with tears of happiness or grief. This age has a strong ...

We were taught many good manners and moral values by our parents in our childhood but how many values still exist within us we never know. Karma is something which controls human life but still we will have one string in our hand that is our Attitude towards life. At one point of time there are no rules in our life which is a plain book with us. Some of us are fortunate enough to have people to guide what to write and mentor us throughout life where as some of us neither has mentors to guide nor has any pen to write his/her own life in the sense they don't have any means to earn their livelihood. Some don't even know what is right and what is wrong which is called karma which no one can change but how to deal with an open book in hand it is definitely in our hands.  Give simple rules for yourself like I should not hurt anyone in life, I should not cheat anyone to earn my bread and butter now this rule is not a matter for a person who get bread and butter without any effort. So ...

One day every one around us speaks in a very sweet way and we feel how blessed we are and out of happiness we don't give any effort to climb the ladder of success in life. It's not just a story but a fact which each one of us would have realised in life that often we feel that all the successful people in the world around us had a great moulding in their journey of life and their journey of success was a cake walk and very easily passed by as they had enough wealth and fortune with them but actually the success can be achieved only after a very minute break even point in life. Once we lose all the support levels in our Life then only we start working aggressively towards achieving something big.  Even most of the successful personalities have a painful past and few could not be disclosed. So the more pain you get in life the more stronger you become in overcoming the hurdles in Life which allows you to discover the inner you and your strengths. Never leave Hope as there is alwa...